Adam shared our adventurous Christmas vacation travels, but left it to me to discuss the ten days in between. Christmas was wonderful. We haven't spent Christmas with my family in four years, none of the kids had, so we were excited about being able to spend this special holiday with them. Christmas morning was not as chaotic as I expected. My family, my brother Brett's family, my sister Annalyn, and my sister Carmell and her partner were there (plus my parents, of course). So there weren't THAT many presents under the tree. Everybody else showed up later in the day and the house was very full for Christmas dinner. We spent the next three days playing, talking, laughing, shopping, talking, eating, etc. This was the first time in over eight years that my whole family has been together. Sad, I know. Sunday morning saw a mass exodus of everyone but two siblings since a big storm blew in later in the day and everybody was trying to avoid it. So it was just my parents, me & mine, and my sister and her kids (husband went home with another sibling to prep for scout campout that week--yikes!).
Sunday night we were talking to my parents about little projects we could help them with around the house to keep son-in-law (namely Adam) occupied for the next five days. My dad had a knee replaced a few months ago and hasn't been up to doing much since then. We started making lists and one thing snowballed into another and before you knew it we were pulling all the furniture out of three bedrooms and prepping it for new carpet. This carpet is so old it's legendary. All of us children had been after my parents to replace it for the past 25 years at least. I'm still a little awestruck about how, after so many years, I was instrumental in convincing my mom AND my dad to just "get 'er done". Not that I'm the reason, of course, but the stars alligned and my enthusiasm and stamina kept my mom going til the bitter end. Carpet was installed Tuesday and Thursday and by Thursday night we had put the rooms back together, mostly. Plus, we had finished a multitude of other minor projects that are stories in themselves. We also encouraged my parents to turn their office into a multi-use room (office/bedroom) so that the next time all their kids come home they'll actually have rooms to use instead of being shunted from couch to couch. That's the project that's not done yet. My dad is ordering new office furniture so that there will be space for a sofa-sleeper in that third room. And my mom is under orders to take her family history digital. It currently occupies two full bookcases (not including the last five years). There's a lot there!
We were planning on driving home Friday but we woke up to snow and decided to not even attempt the passes again until the next day when things would be clearer and warmer. So we had another day to do stuff. My mom decided she wanted to move her upright grand out of the front room and into the family room (she already had a regular grand in the front room). So the men moved that beast and my mom and I rearranged the furniture that was left. By Friday night we had moved 1 large desk, 1 large buffet, 1 overstuffed chair, a large red sofa, three smaller chairs, and boxes and boxes of junk/papers/paraphernelia out of the house. I promised my parents Sunday night that I would not leave them with a job half-done. It would be finished before I walked out the door to drive home. I knew if I left anything undone it would stay undone until the next time I showed up, so I made sure they visited the dump and DI on Friday to get rid of everything. My brother wanted the buffet and it had been parked in the dining room waiting for him to come get it. Well, Adam decided it was going NOW! So he threw it onto the hand truck and carted it down the middle of my parents street to my brother's house. We were not leaving anything undone, if we could help it. For some reason my parents house had become my siblings storage unit (necessary in some circumstances), I just helped move some stuff sooner than later. Now my mom has more space to move, breathe, and just be. It's much more restful now that the rooms aren't so packed with stuff. They wanted to put baseboards in too, but I convinced them there was no time and to save it until next summer when we could rip out the baseboards, old door frames, and old doors and replace them with new. Plus, scrape the popcorn ceilings, re-texture and repaint the ceilings and walls. Now I just have to enlist the help of a couple of my siblings to get this done. I think all families reach the stage where the parents are too old and too tired to maintain their home on their own, so their children get to step in and do the big stuff.
I was really grateful to serve my parents in this capacity and it helped me build stronger bonds with both my mom and my dad. And it kept Adam busy and happy (always a plus). I'm looking forward to taking some time this summer to get the rest of it done. My mom is really looking forward to the prospect of having everything fresh and neat.